Building self confidence is one of the most important things that you can do for yourself. Those with low self esteem tend to "settle" when it comes to their goals, are more likely to engage in risky behaviors, and typically will not do as well as their peers. However, confidence is not something that we are born with. It is a learned behavior that can be acquired. These tips will help you get more self confidence.
Self confidence emerges when we do well at something or feel as though we can. Therefore, the best way to build self confidence is from doing. Many people lack so much confidence, that they will not attempt anything new or anything that they perceive they will not be good at. Often, you must go outside of your comfort zone. The old adage, "practice makes perfect", is a prime example of this. When building skills, we are promoting self confidence. As the skill improves, so do the attitudes regarding our abilities.
Replace negative self talk. If one earnestly believes that he or she is going to fail, he or she ultimately will. This may be as simple as reminding yourself of previous accomplishments that you feel proud of. Other times, it may consist of just admitting that it wasn't your best performance and vowing to do better the next time. This is the lesson learned approach to building self confidence. The idea is to take what you have learned from past experiences and apply it to current and future situations.
Laugh at yourself and get a frequent reality check. Our self confidence is based on our own perceptions. The 'what if' scenario is a great way to get a grip on the situation. You must simply ask yourself what if things do or don't go as planned. Critically evaluate the repercussions of each what if. Not only will you probably get a good laugh from this, but realize that you are being way too hard on yourself. This builds self confidence by helping to release the pressure the individual puts on himself, allowing him to throw the idea of perfection out the door.
Last but not least, surround yourself with people who believe in you. At some point, everyone has had a friend, coworker, or family member that gives our self esteem a good beating. Avoid these situations when possible and fake self confidence. After awhile, you won't be faking it. Self confidence will come naturally.