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This is Dr. Anthony Kane, with the Complete Connection Parenting Program with another parent tip for you. Today I want to read a letter I got recently from one of the people, I have been in contact with, one of the parents, and this is the parent I have advised -- I advice many parents to build relationship with the younger children, just sit and play with them for a period everyday. And this is the letter I got. I have just been doing 20 minutes play sessions you advised with my four-year-old son and I am wondering what is the best way to finish sessions. As he got very upset when the sessions was over, he went running into his room, slamming doors and saying things like, you can't play with me anymore, ever again. I am hoping that once you realize as these sessions are going on and you are done without finishing, then it won't be much of a problem. Is this usually the case, I would love to have your feedback. So well first thing I would say is, this is really great result. It's exactly what you are looking for. What this means is when you are start doing something with your child and there is something that he has been missing, something that he has been lacking in his life and you start getting it to him, his first reaction is going to be like as child that when it's over, they are going to rescind it, they are going to be afraid, they are going to complain, they are going to strike back, because it's phase-over, it's not happening again, and what this means is you hit it, you found what the child is lacking. So what this person discovered is with the 20-minute play sessions that they have been doing the child was lacking the positive, warm, non-critical attention, and that's what the child really needed. And when the session was over the child was so afraid, wasn't going to happen again, he reacted with his reaction which was, I am not going to do anymore. Basically rejecting you before you reject him. It's a wonderful sign when this happens because it needs you form the perfect right track. And I was very encouraging this parent, I am encouraging anyone has a situation like this. When you do something which you think is going to help your child and your child reacts when it's over, what this child reacts you know you are on the right track. And I am very happy and I hope this happens to everybody that you find exactly what your child is lacking, needing, and you are giving that warmth and love that child needs. So you can build your child up and build the relationship with your child and have that wonderful life together. It's Dr. Anthony Kane for the Complete Connection Parenting Program. If you like to get more parenting tips, please come to our website at ccparenting.com and sign-up for our free newsletter which we have both for children and for parents and teenagers.