Male-to-female sex change can be the biggest, most fulfilling thing that can happen in your life. Once you've accomplished this lifelong ambition, it's time to slip into your new role.
Here are ways to cope after a male-to-female sex change:
- Prepare for the inevitable questions. If you're willing to face up to the truth about yourself, then you can handle telling the truth to others. People will ask questions about the reasons for your gender reassignment, the operation itself, and your plans for children. After a few such encounters, you can anticipate the same questions in the future, but it can get repetitive. A few years after your operation, you may want to reserve revealing your reassignment to people who are worth going over the same questions again.
- Purchase the appropriate toys. Now that your biological equipment is different, you may have to buy different sexual toys to suit it. Don't be afraid to experiment with yourself. Ask your partner to help you along your journey of discovery.
- Communicate with your partner. He can be your closest companion you can share your new life. Make sure he knows what you are going through, consult him on ideas you have and involve him in activities related to your post-operation life. Don't forget to ask about his own feelings and thoughts about the two of you.
- Look for a support group. Support groups are a great way to look for solutions to new problems brought about by your condition. These groups are filled with gender reassigned individuals at different stages of their new lives, and can give you tips in the short-, medium- and long-term periods. You will also know what to expect in the coming months and years by listening to their experiences. Finally, sharing your own successes and travails will help relieve the stress you bottle up inside.
- Write a journal. Record your experiences, thoughts and feelings as a new person on a daily basis. This way, you can unburden any stress you are feeling and leave a record of your journey that you can revisit at a later time. You can also start a blog where you can post images and videos that revolve around your new life.
- Seek therapy. Another way to deal with the new challenges is looking for expert assistance. A therapist can guide you though the typical stages that transsexuals undergo, and recommend techniques for dealing with them. Ask for recommendations from among the sex-change individuals you know, or search online for a list of therapists, then research on their backgrounds. Conduct an interview regarding their fees and experience, then undertake several sessions and see if your feelings have improved.
- Uphold your rights. No matter what gender you are, you are still a human being with rights to dignity and happiness. Don't feel cowed by discrimination and open hostility.
A male-to-female sex change is a culmination of a life long dream for a few people, and after undergoing the difficulties to attain it the challenges of a post-operation life will seem paltry. Take the time to enjoy yourself as a new woman.