Raising a teenage daughter can be very difficult. At this point in time, the teenage girl may feel confused as to what she wants to do with her life, what she thinks about various issues, and how she feels about herself. Because of this, the parent has a very important role in raising teenage girls. Here’s how you can raise them properly.
- Communicate. The most important factor in raising teen girls is communicating with them. During the teenager years, your teen will seek out the shelter of other friends who are close to her own age. She will usually become quieter and talk less with you, and start sharing more of her secrets and feelings with her close friends. Nonetheless, you should do your best to communicate with her. Tell her about yourself, no longer just as a mother or father, but as an adult that she can trust. Listen to her stories, no longer just as a child but as an adult in the making.
- Safety. Next, you need to make sure that you daughter feels very safe and very comfortable in your own home. You never know exactly what experiments and activities are going on in your teen’s life. You need to make sure that when she comes home, she knows that she is safe and that there is no bully or enemy who will be able to hurt her. Most of all, you need to make sure that you are not someone who impedes her vision of home as a secure place.
- Self-esteem. Teenage girls tend to go through phases of low self-esteem. At this point, their bodies are beginning to change at different rates. Naturally, there are some girls who will have more curves and less body fat than others. This can make your own teenage girl very insecure and have a low self esteem. You need to make sure that you help her realize that the images she sees on TV and the movies are not real women, but are women who have personal trainers, nutritionists, and plenty of money for surgery and physical therapy. She should have a realistic version of how she should look like, and should know how to appreciate herself.
- Limits and freedom. During the teen years, your daughter will also begin to explore the boundaries of her world. She will want to gain more freedom and will want to be treated as an adult. You need to loosen up a little bit and not make her feel restrained. Making her feel restrained will only make it more difficult for you to keep her within your sight. Give her some freedom, but make sure that you she understands the responsibility that comes with her freedom.
- Trust and love. Finally, show that you trust and that you love your teen daughter. This is a crucial point for your daughter, and she needs to know that you are there for her even if she does not seem to want your presence, trust, and love at all.
With these in mind, you should be able to survive the turbulent teen years with your daughter. It will not be simple and it will not be painless. But with love and perseverance, you should be able to do it.