It’s a known fact that after the baby comes, you will most likely spend less time with your spouse. The family will grow bigger, you will have more chores to do, work will demand more of your time, you will have PTA meetings to attend to and then you will realize that the only time you get to see your spouse is at bedtime, when both of you are dead tired.
- Spending less time with your spouse is dangerous. Why? Because spending time away from each other can lead to divorce. Do not forget why you fell in love with each other in the first place. Make an effort to balance work, family and spouse time. Here are ways to spend more time alone with your spouse.
- Sitter. You’re going to need a reliable sitter. That’s the first thing to spending more time alone with each other. Once you both know the kids are fine, you will be able to enjoy whatever you have scheduled.
- Movie dates. Remember those days when going out on dates consisted of watching a movie together? Bring back those days. Check out your calendars and make time to watch a movie together without the kids. You cannot get a sitter? Then tuck the kids all into bed and put on a movie after. Snuggle up on the couch and enjoy the movie.
- Lunch breaks. Got an hour? That’s good enough. Take a break from your usual lunch schedule at the office and be with each other. You will be pleasantly surprised to be able to talk about other things than the kids.
- Vacation. You will need the help of your siblings or in-laws with this one but it is doable. You can just check in at a hotel and enjoy the amenities there or you can take 2-3 nights off and go somewhere you both have been longing to go to.
- Spa. Book yourselves at the spa. Get a couple’s massage together. Relieve your sore muscles and relax. Rejuvenate.
- Sports. Make time to play a sport you both enjoy. It gives you both the time to spend with each other plus you burn calories at the same time.
- Dinner out. You need not eat out only on anniversaries or birthdays. Again, you can schedule a dinner out with your spouse once or twice every 2 weeks. From the office, you can both meet up at a restaurant. Or you can be adventurous and try out different restaurants together.
- Sick leave. When your spouse is not feeling well, take time out to nurse him. You will be amazed to see how much he will appreciate you for taking care of him. Do not forget to make chicken soup.
- No kids. When the kids are not at home, stop what you are doing and spend time with your spouse. The laundry can wait. Even just snuggling up with each other does wonders to a relationship.
Taking time out is to spend time alone with each other is not easy but can be done. You just have to strike a balance. Remember, life is too short to take anything for granted!