Parent-child relationships can be very complicated. As a primary relationship, your parents can be a great source of love, but also a great source of conflict and tension. To have a harmonious relationship, you need to treat your parents well. It’s obviously easier said than done.
Here’s what you need to remember on how to treat your parents.
- Be respectful. At all times, you must be respectful to your parents. This means that you need to be honest in your interactions with your parents. You also need to remember that although your parents may not always act in a respectable manner, you have to show gratitude and appreciate for all the things they do for you. Back talk and being rude is not acceptable at any age. Though parents do need to hear the hard truth from you at times, you can always do this in a loving manner. Aim to love your parents rather than to hurt them.
- Be loving. It’s important to show your affection to your parents. Go ahead and hug and kiss them, no matter how grown up you are. If you don’t live with your parents anymore, then take the time to call them to let them know you care. Don’t forget birthdays, holidays and special occasions. Buy presents for your parents because you want to give back. Say “I love you” to your parents.
- Be appreciative. No matter what your age and whom you are dealing with, you need to show your appreciation for the things other people do for you. Of all the people in the world, it is probably your parents who will do the most for you. Say thank you for acts of kindness. Let mom know you appreciate her cooking, and thank dad for working hard to provide for the family.
- Be patient. You will certainly have differences in opinion with your parents. Be patient with them. As you both get older, you’ll have a wider perspective on life and you must learn to make allowances for your parents that you may not always give to other people.
- Be forgiving. Your parents aren’t perfect though you may grow up thinking that they are. Forgive them for their shortcomings. Know that they tried their best with whatever they had. Say sorry and mean it when you have disagreements with your parents.
- Remember that they have your best interests at heart. When you have disagreements with your parents or you feel that their style of discipline is off, you need to know that they love you and only want to keep you safe. No normal parent wants bad things for his child.
Love your parents and try to show affection whenever you can. When you have children, let your own parents be involved in their lives. It is one of the best things you can give to your parents. You can’t change who your parents are, but you can change the dynamics of your relationship for the better. Keep this in mind so you can treat your parents well.