Hi everyone, I am Curtis. I wanted to talk a little bit today about relationships. And as you can see behind me, I read a lot of books. I am a smart guy.
I find relationships be very fascinating. The dynamic, the psychology, and of course I had relationships, I’ve been married, I’ve been divorced, I have a child, and I’ve had a good and a lot of experiences and I have a psychological-spiritual outlook on things. And I wanted to talk a little bit about the subject which is on the minds of a lot of people—breaking up. But you regret that, and you’re sad, you’re depressed, you’re very unhappy because you realize that you love still this person, this lady or this man. Maybe you did something that is terrible, maybe you lied, and you did something bad to them.
We all do that of course, we’re all human. But, I just want you to understand that there’s hope yet and people will get together all of the time. They get together from very negative circumstance and maybe you are even far worse than you have been in—people who are in prison, people who have issues of infidelity, abuse, drug abuse, drugs and alcohol. All these kinds of issues have gotten away relationships, yet, people still got them together. There still a connection between people, underneath it all. And whatever is going on about here, there is still the centerline connection and if we can learn to understand what is real for this part or this part here, you can have long happiness in your life and you can still come together with your significant other, with the love of your life.
And some of the techniques that I want to talk about today are counter intuitive, in other words, we don’t normally think about these things or they don’t normally come to mind. A lot of times when we have relationship issues, what happen is that, we react. We over compensate by trying to force their hand and how do we that. The only ways that we can because we are kind in a position of helplessness so we plea, we call them up, we bombard them with text messages, with telephone calls, with emails. We’re knocking on the door, “Hi honey, please,” we’re begging at the door.
The only thing that succeeds is create a spectacle of yourself and you are really showing this kind of behavior which is unflattering to yourself and on the track, in other words, they’re just not drawing people to you, to do that.
So, you can’t force the issue, you have to become sneaky, you have to understand how the mind works and you have to understand that if you have that knowledge, you can use that to bring back together what should be together.
And I want to raise two points for your understanding. Number one, people are attracted to what they aspire to. In other words, people are drawn to people in situations which they feel is consistent with their overall beliefs and patterns. So, that is what drives people together and there is another side of the coin which we are going to talk about in that is two. I am going to raise my hands I better do it twice. People want what they cannot have and this is a great point in advertising and seduction. You dangle this thing before people eyes because they do not have it and they do not have it so they want it. So, with that point in mind, I want to bring up a relationship situation.
Let’s say that you have just broken up and let’s say a week is gone by, two weeks, three weeks, no one knows. And maybe you had your sins and you reacted and you were depressed and you went through your obsessions and okay, you were less behind—that is understandable. But now, when you talk to the—connect, when you re-contact your former boyfriend or girlfriend, you need to put on the appearance that you got no good and that it is just fine that you do not really need this relationship any longer and you moved on. And you do not really to say that you are seeing other people, you’re just kind of have to like raise the possibility that you put that in his mind.
So, here we catch the point where you want what you cannot have. So, all of a sudden, your former boyfriend or girlfriend can have you anymore
